Not Too Heavy, Not Too Light

Do you recall that recent Bud Light TV commercial titled “The Arrival”?

A guy arrives at a backyard party, waves to no one in particular, and meekly says “hi everybody.” Nobody even notices. “TOO LIGHT,” proclaims the ad. Then the same guy is shown crashing through the back fence in a fire-spewing monster truck. “TOO HEAVY,” for sure. In contrast, we’re told, the beer that’s right for you is “not too heavy, not too light.”

The same standard – neither too heavy nor too light – applies to the DJ who serves as Master of Ceremonies (MC)at a wedding reception.

You don’t want your DJ/MC to come across like a melodramatic ringmaster at a Barnum & Bailey Circus, a cheesy TV game show host, wild and crazy “Morning Zoo” radio jock, or a World Wrestling Foundation announcer. TOO HEAVY.

But neither do you want an DJ/MC who’s a wallflower, inarticulate, soft-spoken, unable to command attention, more comfortable buried in his headphones and staring at his mixer than addressing an audience on the microphone. TOO LIGHT.

What you want and need for a wedding reception is a DJ/MC who knows how to talk on the microphone but also knows when not to; who sounds like a classy, articulate professional; who comes across with just enough (but not too much) positive energy; and who can get your guests’ attention when needed to make announcements but without grabbing the spotlight for himself.

Why Hire a Videographer

If your wedding budget permits, I recommend you hire a professional videographer in addition to a photographer.

Photos are wonderful, but only a video can capture the sounds as well as sights of your wedding day. Your wedding vows as you speak them. The toasts by your friends and family. The grand entrance introductions. The music played as you dance your first dance. 

Don’t just think of how you'll feel when you watch your wedding video in a year or two. Think of how you'll feel when you watch it 25 years from now. And how your children will feel, and even your grandchildren.  Looking at photographs stirs memories, but watching film footage makes the figures in those photos come alive. It's a whole different level of experience.

Sure, you have an uncle with a $300 Canon camcorder who’ll loves to shoot family gatherings. But will he guarantee he’ll get all the special moments? Will he capture good quality sound? Will he be on the job constantly, ready to capture those little details and spontaneous moments that tell the story? Will he edit the raw footage into a truly watchable, emotionally compelling, film? No; probably not; uh-huh; and not-so-much.

Ceremony Music Confusion

There's a saying:  Assumption is the mother of all screw-ups. (That's the polite version!)

Nowhere is this more true in at a wedding than when people make assumptions about when the ceremonial music should start.  The troubles lie in the space between the PRELUDE music and the BRIDAL PARTY PROCESSIONAL.

During that time, various things can happen. Depending on the bride and groom's religious or ethnic custom:

• the officiant might enter (if he's not already at the altar);
• the grandmothers and mothers might be seated (which might involve groomsmen doubling as ushers);
• the groom might enter (if he's not already at the altar);
• the groomsmen might enter before the bridesmaids (rather than being paired with bridesmaids for the processional).

Here's where assumptions are all over the map: WHAT music, if any, is playing during those moments?


Some people assume the prelude music should continue during those moments.

Some people assume there is silence. The prelude music ends, and there's no music until the bridesmaids start walking down the aisle.

Some people assume there is a separate song to be played for one or more of these moments (e.g,. a song for seating of the mothers).

Some people assume that whatever song has been selected for the bridal party processional should start playing during these moments (even though the bridesmaids themselves haven't yet come in).

And the funny thing is, everyone who makes one of these assumptions also assumes that "their" way IS "the way." 

With years of experience as a wedding DJ, and providing music for people of various religions and ethnic backgrounds, I have concluded that the ONLY way to handle this correctly is:  COMMUNICATION, not assumptions.  I talk with the bride and groom in advance, and discuss with them exactly who will be walking down the aisle, and in what order, and what music (if any) should be played in the moments between the end of the prelude music and the processional of the bridesmaids!

Whether you're using a DJ or live musicians for your ceremonial music, I strongly suggest you do the same.