"How many songs should we pick?" - Part 3

This is the third and final part of a 3-part article about how many songs you, the wedding couple, should pre-select for the general dancing portion of their reception.

As discussed in part 1 and part 2, my advice is: give your DJ as much GUIDANCE about the dance music as you want but keep your "MUST-PLAY" list to a reasonable length. That means leaving your DJ with considerable discretion to play a variety of music aimed at keeping the dance floor filled.

But what about your very valid concern that if you give the DJ too much discretion, he'll play music you DON'T want to hear?

There's an easy answer to that. In addition to telling the DJ  the music you LIKE, tell him what you DON'T like. In fact, feel free to give him a "Do Not Play" list.

Some clients don't realize they don't have to micromanage the DJ's playlist to avoid songs they absolutely don't want to hear.  If you don't want line dances like the "Electric Slide" played, just tell your DJ. If you want to steer clear of gangsta rap or any hiphop you find offensive, instruct your DJ accordingly. Not a country music fan? Tell your DJ to avoid it. Don't want to hear play "Brown Eyed Girl" because you associate it with an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend? Just put it on your "Do Not Play" list.

Think of it like the food. If you're allergic to peanuts,  you'd just tell the chef to not to use peanuts -- you wouldn't have to specify every ingredient in his recipe.

One final nuance: When compiling your "Do Not Play" list, tell your DJ whether these are to be avoided EVEN IF requested -- or whether they're not to be played UNLESS requested.

You never know what your Aunt Sally or Uncle Bob might come up to your DJ and request; it could be one of those line dances you're not fond of!  After compiling a "Do Not Play" list, go through it a second time and see if you could tolerate any of the songs if a guest asks for them, or whether your DJ should deflect requests for them under any and all circumstances. As your DJ, I will honor your decision either way.